I take birth control pills. So what. I could tell you it’s because it helps to regulate my often haywire menstrual cycle (one time six months without a period – it’s a good thing I’m an extremely good girl and have nothing to worry about). Or that the pills help control acne (I hate that at my age I still get besieged with pimples!). Still the incident the other week: “You’re still taking birth control pills!” my sis exclaimed as she saw the pack in my bag. I felt like I’d just been caught with my hand down the cookie jar. The above reasons I’d cited and said to her, sounded so lame to my ears (nevertheless, both are true by the way!). Because to the contrary, I certainly do not have a swinging sex life (haven’t been kissed for the longest time, let alone…). And it’s not like I jump into bed with any man I fancy (really, I’d much rather prefer to say, I stroll into bed and take my own sweet time). So why do I take these pills which I have to remember to take everyday (no mean feat for someone who’s as absent-minded as me)? I guess it’s about having control over one’s body, having a choice in the matter.
I guess it’s a no-brainer why women feel more passionately about the reproductive health bill than men. I mean, women can get pregnant. Men can’t. And as trite as Ms. Universe Sushmita Sen’s answer, that the essence of being a woman is to love, and the role that we do as mothers”. Not that I’m supplanting Ms. Universe, but I believe the essence of being a woman also lies in her exercising that right to her own body, and having that choice to bear children or not.
See, I’ve researched the matter quite thoroughly. As compelling as the evidence is, from population experts, about the declining population of certain developed countries and how this will affect the country’s economic future later on. When it comes down to it, no woman tells herself: “I’m going to have kids because the world population is declining”. It boils down to a personal choice – am I ready to bring kids into this world – do I even have the time and patience for them – do I see myself working my ass off for an X number of years till he/she finishes college? I won’t be dissuaded from my convictions with a rational answer, when the very act of procreation entails not reason, but is ruled by one’s passions and bodily desires. So the logical stance just won’t cut it for me.
The question of having children strikes me to the very core. I’ve had my OB-gyne tell me: “No you’re too young to have a ligation. You may still want to have kids in the future!”. Just recently, someone proposed to me, not just for my hand, but for my belly as well. You’d think such a gesture romantic – but throw that to a middle-aged woman (!) who’s had two kids who’ve far outgrown their toddler years, and you’ll find one hysterical gal on your hands (and an imminent break-up). Don’t get me wrong. I love being a mom. There’s no feeling that equals to how your heart melts when you see your kids sleeping at night (haha, you know how that feeling of tenderness is almost always present when they’re asleep, for when they’re awake, parenting can prove quite a harrowing experience! And you get a glimmer of understanding why some mentally imbalanced parents murder their children, and why some animal species devour their young). So yes, precisely because I’m a mom and a single one at that so I know how being a parent is an awesome responsibility. And women (and grudgingly, okay men as well) should have a say on whether they should have kids or not.
So I continue to take my pills. For all those reasons I’ve cited. Or maybe it’s the dream of someone. Someone who can make you throw all caution to the winds (and yet still maintain a little bit of sanity to safeguard against the consequences of pregnancy and STDs). Say, the chance that Jude Law might unexpectedly drop into my corner of the world!
South Koreans told to make babies
By John Sudworth
BBC News, Seoul
South Korean woman takes a photo of her baby sitting on a pushchair, April 2009
South Korean government workers are being given an unusual instruction – go home and multiply.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/low/asia-pacific/8469532….
check the comments.
Hmm, do I see another possible new niche market for OFWs…:D
I would gladly "render my services" to clients in SK if it means furthering the progress of my homeland!
I understand Japanese businessmen have also had their work hours shortened to go home and make babies.
If you gapminder, check comparative work hours you'll see south korea WAY UP there.
You can't expect larger families unless the government finds a way to make it easier to raise children and make them equipped to handle the more complicated problems of their generation.
You got some interesting sociological theories there Twin Skies. 🙂
Just thinking out loud.
You can cross out turning away from sex as the cause….If you with refusal (not prioritizing) to have a family, seems far fetched; sometimes people do get the longing for young ones; someone to go home to. Maybe there are who don't see it as a need but enough for a national crisis?
What else is there? Clothing, food, chemicals, environment…. Can it really be as simple as pointing to condoms?
I never blamed contraception for Japan's population woes, Igme.
Rather, from what I've read, it has more to do with cultural factors (i.e. their work ethic, career-driven lifestyle, etc.). In short, it has more to do with them preferring not to have kids, rather than because of a contraception program taken to the extremes, as many anti-RH pundits assert.
oops I wasn't clear….I was refering to you in the condom part, but the anti-RH. soweeee 🙂
dammit..should read 'wasn't referring'
"When it comes down to it, no woman tells herself: “I’m going to have kids because the world population is declining”. It boils down to a personal choice – am I ready to bring kids into this world – do I even have the time and patience for them – do I see myself working my ass off for an X number of years till he/she finishes college?"
This is so spot on, 100%.
Great post ! 😀
I wish more people would analyze what is the significants of the population declines of these countries before jumping to their 'bias' conclusions.
Decline in population is not a bad thing as a country moves towards being more developed and raises the average per capita income and quality of life of their citizens.
Justin, Japan is facing a potential crisis wherein their aged population already outnumber their youth 🙁
Japan's problem is not population, its their immigration policy. you have to be of Japanese decent to a Japanese citizen. Immigration helps in the labor force, but japan has very many restrictions.
Hans rosling on what stops population growth.
http://www.gapminder.org/videos/what-stops-popula…
This may sound gay, but I concur on the matter of Jude Law being sheer awesome – I can't remember the last time anybody made a bowler look sexy, until he portrayed Dr. Watson
Also, on the matter of declining populations in other nations: Based on my observations, I think this has more to do with the Japanese and European citizens being more interested in having more disposable income, and hence being highly career-driven, rather than because of a contraceptive program gone bad.
Japan in particular has it bad – aside from lack of living space and high cost of living, the country has a notoriously stressful work ethic which has literally killed salarymen from stress. At age thirty.
So yeah – I call bullshit on pundits trying to link RH to population declines.
Nice read. 🙂
You go girl! 🙂