Did you come from a broken family?
That was the question that was asked to me. I said yes.
He made it sound like that’s the reason why I became a secularist.
Having a bad experience growing up, growing up without a father or being in a broken family are common misconceptions that the theists think about the secularists.
Both of my parents consider themselves as cafeteria Catholics, for short, secular people. They may be annulled, but they said that they felt happier when that came.
According to the elders, people wouldn’t say that they came from a broken family because of heavy religious influence which makes them think that they are heretics. At the present time, people are very open about it and it is accepted in the society.
Today, the religious community are alarmed with the boom of divorce within their society.
According to this, 20% of Catholics and Protestants and 40% of Jewish marriages end in divorce after 5 years.
Also, the Barna Research Group stated that in the United States, 11% of the adult population is divorced, 25% of adults have had at least one divorce during their lifetime and divorce rates among Christians are significantly higher than those of other religious denominations, and much higher than atheists and agnostics.
The results from their research about divorce rate by religion show that:
- Non-denominational (Evangelical Christian congregations that are not affiliated with any specific denomination) – 34% have been divorce
- Baptists – 29%
- Episcopal – 28%
- Pentecostal – 28%
- Methodist – 26%
- Presbyterian – 23%
- Lutheran – 21%
- Catholic – 21%
Their research proved that the conservative Christians have the highest divorce rate, while the mainline Christians have a lower divorce rate. They found some new information that states that atheists and agnostics have the lowest divorce rate at all. The Associated Press confirmed the results of the research.
There was a point in time where the Baptists had the highest divorce rate of any Christian denominations.
Another research about divorce rates by religion stated that:
Jews – 30% have been divorced
Born-again Christians – 27%
Other Christians – 24%
Atheists and agnostics – 21%
Ron Barrier, spokesperson of the American Atheists commented about the research. He said:
These findings confirm what I have been saying these last five years. Since Atheist ethics are of a higher caliber than religious morals, it stands to reason that our families would be dedicated more to each other than to some invisible monitor in the sky. With Atheism, women and men are equally responsible for a healthy marriage. There is no room in Atheist ethics for the type of ‘submissive’ nonsense preached by Baptists and other Christian and/or Jewish groups. Atheists reject, and rightly so, the primitive patriarchal attitudes so prevalent in many religions with respect to marriage.
StopTheReligiousRight.org also commented:
We hear an awful lot from conservatives in the Bible Belt and on the TV about how we all should be living. Certainly a culture that teaches the conservative religious values of the Christian right must have clean living written all over it. And lots of ripe fruit from their morally superior lives abounding.
It doesn’t. Far from it. People that talk the loudest may be the ones walking the slowest. Joining its history of Biblically correct bigotry and discrimination, it is an area with the highest divorce, murder, STD/HIV/AIDS, teen pregnancy, single parent homes, infant mortality, and obesity rates in the nation. As a region, the Bible Belt has the poorest health care systems and the lowest rates of high school graduation.
So, before theists say something about secularists growing up in broken families, they should look at the statistics and see the reality about what’s happening in the religious community.